5 finals out of the way but a little girl to work on.

I am done with all 5 finals for the fall semester! woo hoo!

I am ready to collapse into a dark comfy corner with big fluffy pillows and sleep for a week straight.

I can't do that though. My daughter is suffering and it is not fair.

All of these stresses we have had the past few years have affected my oldest daughter and she is not doing well in school right now. I have suspected ADD for a long time (even before the problems) but I am not quick to blame things on that because the majority of the problem is our situation and all the strain we have been through the past two years. I had to take a job on top of school to help pay the bills (and ironically daycare) and she has been going downhill since then.

The terrible thing is that I don't see an end to it anytime soon.

I don't know what to do. Her teacher doesn't know what to do and is ready to give up on her. We had a conference last week and N is one of ‘those’ students that take up a majority of the teacher’s time during class because she needs constant guidance and direction. There are 19 other students and N is one of three that needs a lot of attention.
She doesn't follow directions;
She doesn't listen or pay attention.
She daydreams and talks all day and doesn't finish any of her work.

This is a common “N” thing lately:

N's kindergarten teacher had N sit and finish her project while the other students did an art project. She did this because N didn't finish before the other students. In fact, she didn't even start.
She told N that when she finished she could join everyone else in making an art project which was to resemble a crown with candles on it.
Well, N decided she would take her current, unfinished, project and turn it into the art project that everyone else was doing, proceeding to cut up her paper into 'candles' for the crown.

Another consistent problem is this:

When ever the teacher asks her a question she can't answer! Let me rephrase that: She WON'T answer. She will blurt out the correct answers over other students, during their turn, but not when it is her turn. She is not a bad kid. The teacher says that she is a sweetheart but she has no self control.

You know what is even more frustrating about this!

I KNOW she knows these things. She was even doing great before I started this job and I was told that she had made a complete turn around. (She was having difficulties the beginning of the year)
I quiz her all the time at home! She talks about the letter sounds at home. She reads some words and, yes, at home, she needs CONSTANT redirection and attention but it is just me and she and she knows the stuff.
She could be at the top of her class if she wanted to but N just does what N wants to do.
What am I going to do when she has to take a major test!

I get told she has the potential but she is not performing according to her potential. Her teacher is worried that they may have to hold her back if things don't improve. She comes home crying almost everyday lately and is acting up at home.
And then. . .

The worse blow came this morning:

She is affected socially as well.
I took N to class this morning and (In the hallway before the bell rang) my outgoing, talkative little girl was ignored by her friends. It was like my daughter had a disease and they didn't want to touch her. Why oh why...

What the hell did I do wrong? She doesn't deserve this. I have to do something.
I can't let my daughter suffer like this anymore.